I was checking my drafts and I found this post… I completely forgot to post this lol

In my previous post I mentioned how celebrities have gained power over their own image through social media and are able to speak for themselves instead of being at the mercy of tabloids. That’s a good thing however it does come with a big con, parasocial relationships.

People are becoming so entitled when it comes to celebrities, just look at what happened with Chappell Roan. She just told people to respect her boundaries and they were outraged.

I remember her going on Drew Afualo’s show and she talked about how her life changed so she can’t even just act a fool at the park (doing cartwheels and that) without people recognising her. She talked about how it has affected her family and she never wanted that and if it persisted she would quit being a celebrity.

Then people were shocked when she started drawing boundaries.

Why do you have to know where they live, who they date and every single detail of their lives? Do you know every single detail of your friend’s lives?

I get being curious and being nosey. I am both of those things. I’m not going to sit here and lie and say I’m not curious about dating gossip. However, if they don’t want to tell me, the audience, then I am totally fine with that. If I never know who your partner is then fine.

Take Dolly Parton, I never knew who her husband was. I only learned basic information about him when he died. To be honest, she did such a good job I was not even curious. She has never posted a picture of him. She really protected him, and her marriage, well. If I was a celebrity I would be Dolly I’m not going to lie. The focus should be on me and my work more than anything else.

Then you have people who share about their partner and I am also fine with that. However, we can never have nice things because people always take it too far. You can’t just take the nice story of how they met and leave it at that? You gotta ask the weird questions? Why? Just take the story, say aww, and go!

Speaking of weird comments fans have gotten way too comfortable thinking they are friends and saying the most outlandish things. I see this a lot in Kpop because this is the fandom space I frequent the most but I am sure it exists everywhere. You’ll have fans making “jokes” or trying to banter with the celebrity and it just falls flat. Why? Because they don’t know them. It’s hard to convey tone over text. Even if you’re talking via video some of you say the weirdest things.

Or some people, as highlighted by the Seunghan situation, expect celebrities to live and breathe for them. To have the same opinions as them, to dress like them, to remain the same forever and in the case of kpop to live as a mannequin.

It’s so sad!

Although, in the case of kpop if companies drew boundaries a lot of problems would cease.

However, sometimes the reverse is true. Sometimes, celebrities share things that I wish they had kept in a diary. I remember thinking this about Megan Fox and that guy she dated. She kept talking about their relationship and after a while I was like, please stop. I don’t need to know that. So, sometimes I wish I could draw that boundary with celebrities.

Or I wish they had better internet safety practises. When Wooyoung told Atiny the day he was going to Harry Potter land in the UK I gasped. Why did he tell us? Does he not know there are crazies in the fandom? Yes, even in the UK there are crazy people. If you’re reading this and you have fame in your future, never tell people where you’re gonna be, talk about it after you’ve already left!

So yeah, it’s getting out of hand. However, I do like that people, who are sane, call it out. They make it known that it is not normal and that we should respect celebrity’s privacy.

At the end of the day, yes they earn more than us but they’re still human. They’re just people. We don’t need to pay that much attention to them to the point that we overstep boundaries. True, it’s ok to be curious but it is good to recognise when you go past curious to being invasive. It is good to recognise when you’re no longer being a mere fan and a supporter, but obsessed or entitled.