When I was younger I was such a romantic. Getting married at 21 was my DREAM… seriously. I was one of them girls who had it ALL planned out.

But ask me now if it’s still my dream and I will slap you down with a no.

I mean, for one thing I am no where near settled in life. I don’t have my permanent life job, I just finished studying and I still live at home. Yes I’m so ready for marriage (not).

Also I am just not in the right head space for it. I’m young, I’m single and I like it.

Does that mean I don’t check out guys? No, I do but the thought of marrying someone at this youthful age when I haven’t got the hang of adulting scares me. I mean you are with that person for the rest of your life.

The rest of your life

That’s a big decision! Can I take my time?

There’s also the fact that I really want to travel and I just don’t see how I can do that if I have someone tying me down. No shade but I just don’t see how it could happen if I had a man. I’d be like “I’m going to Hong Kong” and he’d be like “Girl no, we need us time.” And then I would roll my eyes and really regret my decision to marry early.

So I think waiting until I’m ready to settle down is the best thing to do.

But some people just can’t get their head around the idea of me, a woman, not wanting to get married right now. Every time I talk to a relative and romance comes up it’s like “Hey when are you getting married?”. At first I was super polite and I would say something like “I don’t know, maybe later, when I’ve found someone and I like them” But over time and after being constantly asked the conversation goes like this: “When are you getting married?” Me: “How about never?” “How about when I’m thirty, if you’re lucky.” “Jesus may come back before I get married.” For the last one they think I’m joking but I’m being fully serious.

What is so strange about not wanting to get hitched right now? What is so strange about me not having the burning desire to marry someone right now? I’m not even sure I’m ready for a long term committed relationship let alone marriage.

So to the people who keep asking me when I’m going to get married, stop. It’s annoying and if our roles were reversed I know you would hate it.