Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat it’s fruit. Proverbs 18: 21
Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones. Proverbs 16: 24
Okay, I have a way with words.
You may be thinking “Duh” as I have a blog and I write and I enjoy writing. You can’t be a writer and not have a way with words. So I do.
But words are so powerful, as those two verses above highlight, and I thought I knew that because I’ve gone to a girl’s school and boy… you learn fast about the power of words.
However I have learnt that my words can cut to the bone, especially when I’m upset. I will get mad and I will cut you… with words. I didn’t think it was such a problem until I saw how mean I could get when upset. That’s when I started thinking “Am I that bad?”
The answer is, I can be yes.
I don’t like being corny or cheesy (although I’m both of those things on this blog) and you don’t get to see the soft side of me until you know me and know me well. So sometimes when people first meet me they just see the wall and not the person.
I was thinking about that and I thought to myself “I don’t want to be that way anymore” “Let me not hide my soft side all the time”. So now if I have something good to say, instead of just thinking it I’ll say it out loud to the person and not just to myself.
Pause, wait, I just realised… I’m an African parent! Omd! Lol! Sorry but I totally am! They will criticise you and be the most real person in your life and then to other people they’ll be like “She’s so smart, did you know she’s top of her class in science?” “She’s a writer, she’s written a book, buy it”. That is me! It’s happened I’ve turned into my mother.
She learned to vocalise her praise and now so shall I. And I’ve already started doing that and what I’ve realised is when you do that to someone it really makes their day. It could be something as simple as you look nice and they perk right up. It feels good to make someone feel happy that way.
Just as the second verse highlights it’s not just bad words that are powerful but good words too. They can be sooo healing. I want to be more of a healing presence.
That is all,