I hate new year resolutions. They are so annoying. I’m not saying you shouldn’t make them just be realistic about what your goals are.

Do you really want to lose weight? I love my friend, she loves all parts of herself. She was like she could go on a diet but she loved how she looked so she wouldn’t. I was glad, because she didn’t even need to lose weight. That’s how I feel about others too. They say oh I’m going to change my body because I’m fat and I’ll look at them like “But you’re not, you’re beautiful and curvy and healthy and you eat right, you’re not fat.” Sometimes I wish they could see what I see.

Another thing I hate about new year resolutions is the whole this year will be my year thing and yet you do nothing to make it your year. It’s like you’re relying on the cosmos to make it your year. And by the way what makes it your year? What do you want to achieve? People will come into the new year angry with how the last year went and will just write it off.

But so much happens in a year. How can you write off everything? Okay so 2016 wasn’t great for me. In fact it was one of my toughest years but will I write it off? No! I learned too much. From my hardships I learned some of my greatest lessons. I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

And I remember clearly how at the end of 2015 people were like “This is going to be my year!” and then 2016 happened. Now I know a whole ton of people are going to be like “2017 is going to be my year!” Omd just live your life. A year doesn’t define you. Plus you can’t sum up a year in one way or one feeling.

Plus there are people who had a great year in 2016, who achieved a lot and grew a lot. There are people who are leaving this year smiling. So stop generalising and putting everyone into the same bubble. It  was not everyone who had a bad year.

Look basically what I’m trying to say is be realistic. If you want to have a great year then have one, work at it and pray about it but don’t just sit there and expect everything to fall into place.

Like Rafiki said (Lion King) “Yes the past can hurt, the way I see it you can either run from it or learn from it.” (paraphrasing).

I choose to learn from it. No matter how much 2016 hurts I am going to learn from it. 2017 will be great and there will be challenges but they shall pull me forward and into a new era of me.

I hope you shall enter a new era too.

Happy New Year